writing, reading, traveling, hiking, jogging, snorkeling, beach-combing, All In The Family, Sanford and Son, The Waltons, Star Trek, organic gardening (flowers, veggies, berries, and fruit), genealogy, people-watching, mutual mind exploration, cooking, ocean/beach, mountains, intense conversations, wood fires, documentaries, abandoned homesteads, metal-detecting, dogs, indie films, IFC , Sundance, History, Science, Sundance, A & E, ID, Discovery, & NatGeo television, cats, children, the elderly, boating, online exploration, psychoanalysis (though a lawyer, I malpractice in psychology), NPR, Garrison Keillor, ecology, politics/world and national affairs, music, learning (expanding my mind), teaching, sharing, assisting the voiceless, the helpless, the forgotten, the downtrodden, lifting the spirits of those with problems by simply listening and then shouldering/sharing them

Man

Woman

61 years old

LTR
PenPal
Friendship
Interests Share

from 18 to 79

Caucasian/White

6'3" ( 191cm)

Athletic

Creative writer, lawyer,

Christian

English
French

PhD/Post doctorate

law, history, literature

Does it matter?

Never

Rarely

Lyon College, St. John's College, Oxford University, Michigan Law School

United States

32505

Florida

Creative, Intuitive, Empathic Alpha Male

A gentle "old soul", I have an insatiable curiosity, an unquenchable thirst for knowledge,and a passion for adventure and challenge and mind expansion. More than this, I have a vibrantly questing spirit.

Also, I am a gregarious, people-loving humorist, evoking laughs during ordinary conversation or writing via word play, double entendre, puns, hyperbole, and other verbal/literary devices. My storehouse of "canned" jokes is enormous, and I live to induce laughter in others.

NOTE: CLICK ON THE LINK TO MY JOKE/HUMOR AND MORE SERIUS BLOGS BELOW.

A creative writer (and songwriter), I'm a 100% intuitive INFJ and am looking for INFJ's/creative/intelligent people to share my creativity, to engage in scintillating conversations, and to establish Siriusian soul-melds or mind2mind connections.

I have a passion for Faulkner, Kristofferson, Prine, Segar, Simon & Garfunkel, Dylan, Dali, wood fireplaces, rain on a tin roof, the smell of wisteria, honeysuckle, and new-mown hay, candles, incense, stream-of-consciousness writing, and intense conversations.

A Kierkegaardian existentialist Christian and a tad of a mystic---some friends say "guru wannabe"---:), I think it is more rational to believe in God than not, but I do not hesitate to question him or Him, and I have far more problems with this Creature/Entity/First Cause than with Jesus, whose teachings were and still are relevant, revolutionary, and transformative.

Cosmology and space, inner and outer, fascinate me, and I am intrigued with time and the concept of infinite and parallel universes.

I wanna share a bit more of myself---or, more accurately, my Self---and my thinking with you, okay? In the process, you may learn something about yourself as well.

Are you happy or hurting? What is the purpose of life---more specifically, of YOUR life? Why were you born? Why are you here? What matters? What matters to YOU?

Do you still have the dreams and innocence of childhood----the goggle-eyed wonder and awe of all creation? Remember how it was? Sure you do!

Where are you going with your life? How do you get there? Have you lost your way? Gone down the wrong road, maybe time and again---as many of us have---an alienated prodigal in an unhappy and strange land? Do you miss "home"? And where, or is it "who", is "home"?

Are you alone within yourself, isolated and lonely? Or do you have connectedness with the universe---and with at least one very special person? More importantly, do you embrace connectedness with Something or Someone outside of and greater than your meager life? If not, do you yearn to do so?

Since I have found a key to happiness (I say "a", not "the" because there is, no doubt, more than one), I am eager to share it with you. You will not find it here at brainiac or elsewhare on the internet or in another person; no one will ever "complete" you; your happiness is within---if you know how to access it. Happiness is, also, in connectedness with a special other in a universe of "one" called "us"---and in connectedness to Something or Someone greater than yourself and your Self (Get the distinction?).

So, again, do you know how to access happiness? I do. I have. You see, for many years I lived on the other side of that divide. I did not really know how to be truly happy. I permitted issues from the past and anxiety and worry of the future to pollute my present.

I simply wallowed through life. I existed; I did not live. I had a little fame; I accumulated a small fortune; I collected "things"; I indulged in the various "pleasures" of life.

After all, was I not living my dream: The simple dream of a bedraggled, hungry kid born and reared in a shack with an outhouse, no electricity, no television, no telephone, no automobile, no air conditioner, no heating (except a wood stove)---where the snow swirled through the cracks in the cold of winter and piled up on the feather bed and where as a child I could peer through the gaps in the floor with wonder at the lovely red chickens and their shiny, bright, white eggs.

Yes, living my dream! Or was it my dream? A nightmare? No, not quite that, but not satisfying, either. I still felt the void, the emptiness, the disconnection from anything that really mattered---what we all feel when we choose to embrace nothing except Deified Self and external "things."

No, I was not happy. Not even content. Nothing I had acquired or attained satisfied me. Nothing, in fact, meant anything at all to me. Nor should it have. But I did not know that then, and I wrestled with myself to find life's meaning and purpose.

Then I discovered a key! Now, I am living, not merely existing from one day to the next as I once did when I filled my lost and empty years with "things" and people and "busy-ness"---to block out thinking, feeling, dealing with where I really was. Now, I am happy and joyful---and content---and I have peace and purpose. I am "home."

And you can be, too!

NO! I am selling nothing! Nothing! All I offer is my wisdom and experience, and I give that to you free---as my friend. Such as I have, I give unto you for whatever, if anything, you make of it. The choice is yours.

I urge you, if you have not done so already, to go through my profile carefully. Does your intuition tell you that you and I could be friends and learn from each other? I tend to mean what I say and say what I mean: As I say in my profile, I am here looking only for friends. Very special friends.

Maybe you, yes, you, are that special person? Sometimes my intuition tells me that about people. As we communicate, I will heed that still, small voice. So should you!

Even though I am 100% intuitive, however, I can be wrong. My daughter constantly reminds me, "Now, Dad, just because you are 100% intuitive does NOT mean that you are always right." Touche! I am not! :) Just right about 99% of the time. :) Just kidding!

Here's the deal: if you don't pigeonhole me (on age, distance, religion, color, nationality, gender, race or other artificial societal constructs), I won't pigeonhole you. We can then speak to each other not shell2shell but mind2mind. Maybe even heart2heart or even that rarest and most esoteric of connections: soul2soul. Who knows? Deal?

Hopefully, a friend,
Jack

P.S. If you choose not to favorite or friend me, I honor and respect your choice. If so, I wanna wish you the very best of luck here on brainiacdating.com and in life. May all your dreams come true! May you find---and have---joy, grace, love, happiness, and the peace that passes all understanding!

William Faulkner, Jack London, John Steinbeck, Kris Kristofferson, John Sandford, Lawrence Sanders, Craig Thomas, Sylvia Plath, Eckhardt Tolle, Writer of Ecclesiastes, Alan Paton, Rabbi Harold Kushner, Nietzsche, Martin Grey (For Those I Loved, a Holocaust book), Ken Follet, Trevanian, Heinlein, Asimov, Michio Kaku, Mohandas Gandhi, Robert Coles, Robert Cato, Sartre, Camus, Hesse, Robert Frost,'s "Stopping By the Wood on a Snowy Evening, Carl Sandburg's "Four Preludes On Playthings Of The Wind", Edwin Arlington Robinson's "Mr Flood's Party", Matthew Arnold's "Dover Beach", and numerous other books (fiction and non-fiction about all subjects), poems, plays. An NPR play, "Lone Star", about a soldier back from 'Nam is superb as is its companion play about the wife, "Bourbon and Lace".

(l) Why?
(2) Why not?
(3) What, if anything, matters?
(4) What is life's purpose and meaning?
(5) Why does a (supposedly) loving God permit pain, suffering, atrocities, genocide, disease, etc.? After all, it can't be blamed on man's inhumanity to man, can it?
(6) Given our track record, does our species even deserve to continue? If so, why? If not, why not?

On first meeting new people, I like to establish trust and mutual exploration by showing myself/making myself vulnerable, and, if successful and the facades come down, this leads to scintillating conversation with that mind2mindconnection that almost transcends a need for the visual and the oral.

Although not really a "game" (unless both parties are into it), there is nothing in life quite like the mutual exploration of space, the last frontier, where no man (or woman) has gone before: those bejillions of light years from the brain to the heart and the incalculably infinite distance between the two ears. :) "Nothing but a wasteland," you say? Ah, not so, just wait to see what the two of us find there!!! :)

Ping pong, tennis, crochet, darts, horseshoes, basketball, target-shooting (I am not a hunter), Stratego, pinball, Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, 20 Questions---and Hide-n-Seek, Kiss-n-Tell, Strip Poker :) :)

The Graduate; Snow Failing on Cedars;Dr. Zhivago; A River Runs Through It: The Notebook, Trip to Bountiful; Bucket List, All About Schmidt, Schindler's List, Fiddler on the Roof, The Apostle, Elmer Gantry, Before Sunrise & Before Sunset, Citizen Kane; Tomorrow; Legends of the Fall; Shenandoah, Alien; Pink Panther; Oh Brother, Where Art Thou, Jeff Buckley's song, Hallelujah; Nick Drake's song, Colours; Ry Cooder's Borderline; Bob Seger; John Prine; Kris Kristofferson, Smetana's, The Moldau, from The Fatherland, B.B. King's Why I Sing The Blues

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